TWELVE STEPS
OF A
SPONSOR
Unsigned
New Jersey AA
1.
I will not help
you stay and wallow in limbo.
2.
I will help you grow,
to become more productive, by your
definition.
3.
I will help you become
more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more
free to continue becoming the authority of your own living.
4.
I cannot give you
dreams or “fix you up” simply because I cannot.
5.
I cannot give you
growth, or grow for you. You must grow
yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.
6.
I cannot take away
your loneliness or pain.
7.
I cannot sense your
world for you, evaluate your goals, or tell you what is best for you in your
world, you have your own world.
8.
I cannot convince you
of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of
growing over the safe misery of not growing.
9.
I want to be with you
and know you as a rich and growing friend; yet, I cannot get
close to you when you choose not to grow.
10.
When I begin to care
for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am
toxic, bad and inhibiting for you and for me.
11.
You must know my help
is conditional. I will be with you,
hang in there with you, as
as long as I continue to get even the slightest
hints that you are trying to grow.
12.
If you can accept all
of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what
God meant us to be, mature adults, leaving
childishness forever to little children.